How are you supposed to lasso that magical unicorn before it flies away?Well, if you’re dating someone, or thinking of dating someone, here are the 15 crucial questions you need to be asking you and your dating relationship.Are you fitting and conforming to some abstract idea of what you think they want?Or are you blossoming and flourishing into who you really are?Does this thought excite you or does it make you feel like you just digested a can of the before mentioned Play-Doh? And you need to have your own identity beyond your spouse. If you don’t want to become like the person you’re dating, should you be dating?If you can just get your hair, abs, complexion, and clothes just right, then The One will scamper to you like a squirrel to a nut factory. Sure appearance might catch someone’s eye, but it’s personality, values, faith, heart, past, present, and future that’s going to make them stay.
However, for many of us our fallback communication plan will be the one our parents laid out for us.
Not all values are the same and sometimes you can have two very good people with very good values, but those values can feel at war with each other.
As I wrote in “If your core values can’t dance together, then you’ll keep tripping, falling and wondering why you can’t move together in rhythm.” For example, you could have a high value for responsibility and the person you’re dating could have a high value for risk.
Is the person you’re dating like a magnet trying to bring the best of you to the surface?
Or are they trying to bury you under a pile of dirt?