Dating rituals in america
Anyone who disregarded the rule was subject to church censure.Even such groups as permitted the young people to make their own promise of marriage required them to obtain the consent of their parents.This practice must have been of Dutch Mennonite background and was transplanted from Prussia to Russia and America.
Persons wishing to marry must have the approval of the parents and the church officials.It was not only a piece of folly but in bad taste or even sinful.This view prevailed in many circles till late in the 19th century.The deacon usually served as the "Schteecklimann." His ordination charge included the words, "and if there are brethren and sisters who wish to marry, you are to serve them uprightly." One manuscript adds the words, "according to the Christian regulation." Among all Anabaptist-Mennonite groups it was once customary for the preachers or elders to make the marriage proposals.The principal reason for this rule was to insure a "marriage in the Lord," that is, the union of two young people who were members of the church.